I found patience at a crisis in my life… the blessing that greeted my nature – Olya Aman
Keeping the kids nice and neat, the house cozy and welcoming, the food tasty and nourishing—I reduced my restful, sleeping hours to about four a day, comforting myself with thoughts about excellence and perfection of my life.
In three months I felt as if I was groping forward a few steps in my daily life and strolling backward with increasing speed. The little one cried almost every night with no obvious reason. I often lost my temper with my four-year-old.
The growing family forced my husband to accept an offer of higher pay and longer absence from home, often being away on his business trips for weeks in a row. Left alone with kids I could not find energy enough to keep my old acquaintances and friends. I was busy and very lonely.
I kept reproaching myself for lack of attention to my husband and kids. Too often I ended up snappish in my manner.
The atmosphere at home became suffocating. My husband was providing for the wellbeing of our family, and I was devoting myself fully to the kids. Although our generous impulses had the best intentions, the outcome didn’t provide lasting happiness.
I was aching to the distant time of those happy days when my husband was at home every night. The tears I shed on the occasion of his coming home from another business trip caused the sacred emotional transformation. The only solution was to reunite our family, sacrificing some pleasant but unnecessary luxuries on the way.
My husband decided to go back to his old employment with lower pay and higher healthy, meaningful time spent with his family. With each day at home and each family dinner, the healthy and benign atmosphere was coming back to the house.
We abandoned our expensive car for a cheaper and a trifle less comfortable one and our pompous yearly vacations for a lovely countryside escape. When a chain of unlucky events at my husband’s work culminated in his losing the position, we didn’t despair. We lived out of our humble savings and occasional company commissions that I still received now and then.
My husband, freed up from the necessity to go every day to the office, finally could devote his time to his music experiments. He used to compose wonderful pieces when in college.
My husband was shutting himself up in his study at night, interrupting his work for rounds with our crying son. The little creature grew quieter with time, sensing my increasing tranquility. I had my full night’s sleep thanks to my husband’s loving help. Our older son got much attached to his father with his bedtime stories and childish fighting games.
Sometimes the artistic progress was dishearteningly slow. Producing music, though, became more familiar with each failing attempt at reaching the desired effect. I believed in his talent and future success. I encouraged his persistent work.
The daily treadmill of our home life was sweet and enchanting, notwithstanding the portioned to us hardships. I liked to see my husband, to hear him about the place and at his music work.
One year left us with a feeling that we’ve accomplished a lot of good for our family, which no money could buy. The second year brought the first small yet increasingly delightful music projects. My husband and a few of his college friends got back together and created a small-movie company.
All three of their movies presented at the festivals didn’t gain recognition. My husband became an instigator and a powerful motivator for his small company lot.
His music grew strange, turbulent and insistent, soft and plaintive—and the movie they produced with not much money but with great blissful inspiration became a winner.
Olya Aman 
I tend to be very patient ( I am a Taurus!) I wish my husband was more patient!
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I am not a very patient person, but I have learned patience since having children. Some days I lose it, but I am actively working on it in my life.
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I like your concept of patience being a lifelong spiritial practice. It does take a while for patience to become a habit. I work on it daily as I know God says it’s a virtue.
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Patience is such an important trait to master, and one which is easily forgot. The world would be much calmer if more effort was put into practising patience.
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I needed this today! I’m trying to patiently wait for some information from nursing school and I’m finding it very hard.
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I am not patient but have been trying to work on it. My husband is my complete opposite so it’s helpful.
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I have for sure learned more patience in having a toddler. I only hope to get better!
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Patience is the key to all success with respect to any field. It comes naturally to all healthy mothers. I feel becoming more patient after stepping in motherhood.
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I can be patient in many ways. There some areas where I lack that though, and am actively working on improvment.
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I think being patient is such a good quality to have. I am not at all, but getting better as I get older lol x
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I’m a very patient person, many say I am too patient. But like you said patience really does make a family become one and they are able to spend quality time together and enjoy each other’s company. I’m glad her husband went with the other job because when it was left to her it can just get to be so much and feel so lonely.
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Patience makes you resilient and strong. This is such a heartwarming story. I love the sold partnership the husband and wife showed through the storms and their lives. And I feel the growth and victory they’ve accomplished for themselves (and their family unit).
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It is so important to have patience not only on waiting for something but for everything you do in your life. I admittedly, that when I was on my 20’s I was not that patience but when I have my own family my patience become stronger and stronger everyday!
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I KNOW I need to be patient – because I am such a impatient person. It stinks! but I am trying!
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Beautiful, powerful, effective. This is a mini course of just following your steps. Easy said.
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Another fabulous, inspiring heart-warming story ☺ ❤ I am such an impatient person, need to work on it seriously!
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patience is a nice gift to self and many blessings will come your way for those who patiently wait.
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Patience is so important! Thank you for sharing this beautiful and encoring post on patience.
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I would definitely share this. I know a lot of people whose lacking of patience. And I’m proud that I’m not one of them.. Woohoo.. 😅
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Patience is definitely a virtue that I’m working on developing. It’s not the easiest thing to master, but it’s so necessary in order to be truly happy.
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I am not a very patient person and it depends on the situation how I tend to handle things. I don’t like doing nothing whilst waiting for things to happen.
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This is a great post to ponder. I love that topic. It shows how patience are being formed us in our daily living.
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Patience is really very important in whatever you do.
Completely agreed with the post.
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oh you can say that again! I just hope I will master it more in my life.
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Patience is not something that comes natural to me. It is something I have to work at, and let me tell you it is very very hard. Great tips BTW
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These words are true. Patient is really a virtue. I believe that strong people have this.
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